As we all know – our world has been going through some big changes these last few years and it hasn’t exactly let up. Many of us aren’t so keen on change, yet have been dropped into a world that is changing rapidly every day.
Since we can’t exactly escape the change and instead are being asked to make change after change after change – the question then becomes – how can we make change as easy as possible?
Here are 4 tools you can use to move through all these changes a little smoother; as the more we resist and avoid – the harder it actually becomes.
- Stay Open. Soften. Listen. The opposite of this is closed, tight, stubborn. The phrase ‘my way or the highway’ describes this closed perspective as well. When we adopt a more open and soft position it is like you along with the universe are taking off the armor, seeing each other clearly for the first time, and saying ‘I’m hear, I’m listening, and I know there is only better on the other side – show me the way.
- Is this what the best version of me would be doing? As you go throughout your daily tasks – ask yourself this question. Make sure that you are acting in a way that lines up with this best version of you. It is easy to continue to do things as we have always done them, however when something different is trying to come through it’s asking us to do even the most basic daily thing, in a slightly different way.
- What pisses us off the most typically is our medicine. This is a hard one, it has been for me, however I have seen it plenty of times now. Every time something comes up that makes you feel anger, frustration, resentment, and the like – its very easy to go right into those emotions. This however is exactly when you want to bring in the first 2 tools already mentioned. It may take a few times of the same situation coming up in order to fully move past it – but that’s when you want to soften and consciously choose to pivot and respond in a different way than you usually do. Maybe it’s usually is yelling, screaming, leaving – the new can look like taking a deep breath, clinching a fist, and taking a walk around the block to clear the emotion out.
- Vulnerability – This can be looked at as a weakness, something very scary and unknown – however once we practice being vulnerable we see the strength it takes and the transformative power it has. If you are struggling with something, if someone upset you – begin to practice sharing your hurt and struggle with another you feel comfortable with. When we are stuck in a problem it is easy to be looking at it through a narrow perspective. Sharing our problem with others helps broaden that perspective. They might have the exact answer you are looking for. The answer to your problems is usually right within reach.
How to know if you’re ‘doing it right’
There is a way to know if we are doing it right so to speak. When we tap into the feelings in our body – our body will let us know if it is a yes or no.
When we are making change in a positive, helpful, beneficial way – it will feel expansive, uplifting, light, cheerful, hopeful, and exciting.
If it makes you feel sad, constricted, shameful, and small – use the tools above to turn those emotions around into a more positive light.
This information can also be found in video form below.